The author with Tuesday Vargas

MANILA, Philippines -- I was so happy to see Tuesday Vargas in the Philippine Independence Day celebration in Madrid. Consul General Cookie Feria was at a high because the OFWs were in for a treat that day with Gabby Concepcion, Tuesday Vargas and myself entertaining the crowd.

That day, Tuesday was accompanied by her husband Coy Placido, guitarist of Session Road and Top Junk. She looked glowing and radiant and my maternal instincts knew she had another life inside her. So I asked the newly married comedienne if she was pregnant. She gleefully answered, “Yes, I am! Four weeks! But I can’t announce it yet.”

Four weeks was indeed too early to announce. Obstetricians usually let the mothers announce after six weeks when the ovum is confirmed that it is not blighted and the pregnancy will prosper.

I was so excited for the couple most especially for Tuesday’s nine-year-old son Kaya who was going to have another sibling at long last.

Tuesday promised to text me once it was okay to announce her pregnancy.

The couple went back to Manila the day after our performance and I advised her to take it easy because the first nine weeks are very critical. I should know because I had one miscarriage before I conceived my two-year-old son Xavier Zappa.

I still had to fly to Paris for one last show before flying back to Manila. Upon arriving in Manila, I had to jump to the domestic airport to fly to Cebu for a gig for Embil Pharmaceuticals, a new Turkish company that opened in the Philippines.

I accidentally bumped into my fellow comedienne Tuesday but her glow was gone. She told me with her voice cracking like she wanted to break into tears, “Mother, I have sad news. It did not prosper.”

I immediately hugged her and told her that it was going to be alright and she can have another one in a month’s time because that was exactly what happened to me. We couldn’t talk so much as she had to board her plane.

Tuesday, I hope you can read this column because I know it is a hard time for you right now. I completely empathize with you because I too had a miscarriage and I could not understand why bad things happen to good people.

My spiritual director Vic Pestano read to me a Bible verse, Romans 8:28, “We all know that in everything God works for the good of those who love him, whom He has called according to his plan.”

In simple words, some bad things in your life are needed for the good things to come.

We can fully understand this verse by taking a look at the life of Joseph the Dreamer. His brothers sold him as a slave in Egypt. More bad things happened because he was imprisoned in Egypt.

But during his stay in prison he met the King’s butler who had a dream. Joseph interpreted the dream and told him he will be freed in three days. Joseph’s words came true and the butler was freed in three days.

The butler told the king about Joseph and the King consulted Joseph about his dreams as well. All of Joseph’s interpretations came true and he was not only freed, he became the King’s administrator and right hand. (The Holy Bible, Genesis 37-44)

If you look at Joseph’s story, bad things had to happen to him before he reached his good destiny. Sometimes, we do not think that God has an “ultimate plan” for us.

We just don’t see it yet because we are busy complaining, crying or regretting the bad things that are happening to us right now. So don’t fret, my dear Tuesday. Maybe the Lord did not allow your pregnancy to prosper because the baby was going to have a complication in the future and the Lord wanted to give you a healthier baby. Or maybe the Lord has plans for your career and timing is the ultimate reason why the baby did not prosper. But there is a reason for such mishap and it will always be for your own good.

Life is like a cross-stitch project. If you look at the back of a cross-stitch pattern, there will be lots of knots and disarray. But these knots and disarray are needed to make the cross-stitch project beautiful.

Known as Asia’s Funny Girl, Giselle Sanchez is a singer, stand-up comedienne and television host. You can watch her Mondays thru Fridays in AksyonTV in her program “Tayuan Mo at Panindigan” weeknights at 9:30 p.m. Check out her website at www.gisellesanchez.com for her Bohol beachfront hostel.