DEAR CHICO, DELAMAR, AND GINO...Before the two of us ever became a couple, I already knew that Ian was a bit of a flirt. In fact, that was one of the things that made me think twice about becoming his girlfriend.

However, during the course of his courtship, he managed to convince me that his being flirty doesn't mean he's disloyal, and he has certainly proved to be a loving and attentive boyfriend since. His social skills have proven useful in his job as well, where he does a lot of networking.

Recently, however, I've begun to have doubts about his faithfulness. One of his business contacts constantly calls him and texts him on his phone, way beyond what can be considered professional. Add to that the fact that I checked his messages and I don't think "You looked great at the meeting" counts as part of the job.

I know I'm wrong for snooping, but am I also right in thinking that he may be cheating on me? Should I just confront him about the messages, despite the way I found out about them? -Nina

CHICO SAYS...Don't delay conversations that are inevitable. If you have doubts, serious or otherwise, air them now or they'll rot like unreleased fart, that will inevitably herald sh*t that'll hit the fan. True, flirting doesn't necessarily mean cheating, but more often than not, one leads to another. Forget about how you got information, the fact is you already see red flags, inducing the less-than-attractive sleuth-like behavior. Yes, he may simply dismiss your fears and focus on the sleazy manner with which you obtained your "proof," but to hell with these little battles; you're waging a potential war here.

Look, if it turns out you're wrong, then you get a slap on the wrist for being nosy. But if you're right, then this needs addressing NOW. He needs to know that you're having doubts about his fidelity. Whether he's guilty or not, he needs to know that you're feeling this way. Don't let alarm bells like these go unheeded. One of you (or both) needs to see what you're doing to unsettle the other. When there are symptoms, there usually is a disease.

DELAMAR SAYS...I wouldn't bring up the snooping around if I were you. He's not going to like it and he'll turn the tables on you. When it comes to these suspicions and with no hard evidence of what you suspect, it is better to just ask point blank. If I were you, I'd ask, "Is this girl going to come between us?" Ask the question after you notice him texting or calling her. Ask out of the blue but straight up.

Look at his reaction. Observe how he takes the question. Should he ask you where the question is coming from just tell him that you think the calling and texting seems beyond what is necessary for work. Keep it at that. Do not mention what you read in his message. More than asking your boyfriend there is really nothing much that you can do except trust him and take him at his word. Just the same PROTECT WHAT YOU HAVE AT ALL COST. I'm not sure I can tell you how to do that. But it doesn't matter. Your intuition will show you what you should do when the time comes.

GINO SAYS...This is a really tricky situation you're in. If you're wrong, it puts you in a really bad position for not trusting him and checking out his messages which you shouldn't have been doing in the first place. I was caught in a similar situation before and well I'll give you the advice that I went with back then. Leave it be. Have faith in your loved one, if you really love him and you think you know him enough, then you'll know that he isn't cheating on you. Innocent until proven guilty is always what you should go with. I'm not saying that this is entirely true, who knows he COULD be cheating on you, but that's why you have to trust him enough not to. I mean that's part of loving someone right? Trust is one of the most basic foundations of being in a relationship, if you can't seem to trust the person you're with, then there must be something wrong with the equation. On a side note, I don't think you should be snooping around his phone. It'll just add to your paranoia and distrust. Just trust that he's not doing anything wrong.

If you do catch him in the act in the future, which I hope won't happen, at least your conscience will be clean and you'll be able to say that you did everything the "right" way. I don't know about you but for me that gives me a small bit of comfort. In this scenario, I'll be the anti-realist and go with just trusting the one you love. Who knows, it might just pay off.