DEAR CHICO, DELAMAR, AND GINO...I've been going out with this guy for several months, and during the course of that time I realized that he may like me more than I like him.

When we started dating, he was already telling me that he “loved” me, despite the fact that we didn’t know each other that well yet. He would bombard me constantly with text messages even late into the night. A month ago, he started talking about marriage, and I broke if off with him because of it. We're only in second year college!

But that hasn’t stopped him from hounding me. He keeps messaging me on Facebook and telling me that he’ll “fight for our love.” And the text messages keep coming and coming. It’s exhausting.

I’ve told him repeatedly that I already broke it off and have no intention of making it whole again, but he doesn’t seem to listen. Is there anything else I can do to make it clear that no means no? -Racquel

CHICO SAYS...You can't really blame the guy because you did go out for several months. At the very least you liked him enough to be his “girlfriend” (I assume this since you said you “broke it off with him”). So if not for his aggressive romantic pace, you might still be with him now. So you saying no, could for him, mean a mere temporary setback. You can’t really say you don't like him, because you guys were together for months.

So I guess the only way is to wear him out. You just need to say as many no’s as you need to, to get the message across. He will try to be as tenacious as he can, but you just have to be consistently negative in your responses. But who knows, maybe he CAN win you over with his persistence. I actually know of a guy who won the girl over, the very girl who told everybody she would NEVER say yes to him, because he just wasn’t her type. Years later, and multiple ex-boyfriends after, she eventually relented and they have a family now, and going strong. But if you’re really done with him, be resolute and rebuff whatever advances he may have, and hopefully, in time, he'll get the point.

DELAMAR SAYS...Unfortunately, no. You can make a police blotter which is basically just a record of what he's doing in case something more serious happens in the future. Knock on wood! It will be used as proof that he's been “harassing” you.

You better be careful though. Men who come on that strong can do something crazy. I'm not trying to scare you but most guys will eventually take the hint and just fade away into oblivion after a while. Some though can be a little obsessed and do something more drastic. Keep an eye out that he isn’t the latter. Just be firm that you are not interested anymore. Don’t keep in contact because the more you still do, the more he’ll think he has a chance with you. And make sure a handful of people close to you know that he is being “persistent.” Tell your family and your closest friends so that they know. You never know what might happen and it's just good to let people know what might potentially be a problem.

Lastly, be firm. Be polite about it but don't engage him anymore. Don't respond to texts and to messages on Facebook. Just say no once and let him take the hint that you're serious by ignoring further advances.

GINO SAYS...Well, the way I see it you have two options of letting this guy down, one is the really straightforward/harsh kind of way and then the other is a wee bit more subtle than the former.

If you want to get your point across, you might have to confront him about it again. Just be firm in telling him why you’re not interested anymore and be bluntly honest. Sometimes when women give unclear reasons or a subtle “I'm dumping you” message, we take this as a mixed signal, meaning we sometimes think that all we have to do is try harder. I'm sure you've heard that a lot of men out there are pretty dense when it comes to matters of the heart. This is no exception. Obviously rejection is something that people don't want to deal with, so instead of seeing it as a failure, they look at it as a challenge. It’s an unsolved puzzle, an unfinished game that’s just difficult to play. What you have to make him understand is that the game is completely over. That there is no recovering from it, there are no more extra lives and that there is no option to hit continue. I don't exactly know how you’re going to word it (as I've never had to dump anyone before), but I'm sure you get my point.

Now the second method is something other people would consider more subtle. Ignore him, don’t give him the time of the day by talking to him. Yes some people might think this is mean but when you’re not around and he doesn’t have the opportunity to see you or talk to you, sooner or later, he will get over you. Out of sight, out of mind. It might take a while, but eventually it will register in his brain that this is a battle he can’t win.

Whatever option you choose to take, I wish you luck. Just make sure it’s something that you really want to do. You wouldn’t want to end up ditching this guy and then eventually realize that a relationship with him is something you want to explore after all.

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