I am 36 years old, with two kids and separated for three years now.

I've been going out with this guy for several months, and during the course of that time I realized that he may like me more than I like him.

It will be my boyfriend and I’s fourth anniversary this coming Valentine’s, and we've had a really great four years so far.

DEAR CHICO, DELAMAR, AND GINO...Before the two of us ever became a couple, I already knew that Ian was a bit of a flirt. 

DEAR CHICO, DELAMAR, AND GINO...I’m a high school senior graduating this year, and my academics have been great so far.

Five years ago, my bestfriend Vina had it all, a happy family, a good paying job and a happy love life.

About three years ago, a friend got diagnosed with cancer and had to undergo tortuous rounds of treatment and chemotherapy. Early last year, doctors pronounced him in the clear, and all of us were just happy to put the unhappy incident behind us.

The only question is will you be the one to initiate the making out this time?

It will seem “less” of cheating if he did it just once rather than for one year, if he is right that he lied to you only once.

Sad to say, whoever carries the burden of the situation more, is ultimately the loser – whoever is more affected, whoever is more bothered, whoever cannot let it go. Sometimes it's not so much forgiveness, but simply letting it go.

Post-infidelity, some couples are better off staying together, while others are better off going their own ways; there are no steadfast rules.

There is no sense in staying in a marriage when your spouse is making a mockery of it. It will make you miserable. And who wants to live life like that? Any kind of saving the marriage can only work if both work on it.

When we get older, we learn to be a little bit more discreet, learning how to adjust from the outside, or stomping one foot to loosen sticks and boulders that got stuck in painful angles, or changing our stance to create spaces where body parts can move to.

Life throws you curve balls every now and then, but that is how it is. You can't control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it. Some people get what they deserve, while others get what they THINK they deserve. Which one are you?

If the problem runs this deep, and I suspect it does, at least deeper than you think, you might need professional help to walk you through the path of processing what happened to you.

I'm a 16-year-old guy who just recently went on his first date. I went to a nice restaurant with the girl I'm going out with, and then we watched a movie afterwards. As far I know, we had a good time, because she agreed to go out on another date with me when I asked her out again.

I am an incoming sophomore college student in a sort of dilemma. I am studying in a private university where I also spent my grade school and high school years. Those were the best years of my life because I gained so many good friends, most of whom I also see in college.

Dear Chico and Delamar... I met my current boyfriend when my boyfriend before him was out of the country on a month-long vacation. It wasn't like I planned it. I just met this wonderful new guy, and as much as I tried to resist, I was just too taken with my now boyfriend's charms.

Dear Chico and Delamar... Friends always run to me when they need someone to talk to. Maybe because I give good advices, or perhaps because I just know how to listen, but I never reject a friend’s plea for a sympathetic ear.

Three years ago, I had a fling with a man...

I am a victim of a sexual assault that has, unfortunately, resulted in me getting pregnant. I don't believe in abortion, so I have decided to put up the child for adoption.

I've always hated piercings and tattoos. I'm scared of them. 

I'll be graduating from high school in less than a month, and while I've done a lot during my four years -- been part of the honor roll, part of the student council and the student paper -- one thing I didn't do is go out and date. 

DEAR CHICO AND DELAMAR...

I've always had a close relationship with my dad. I helped my mom take care of him because he suffers from bouts of depression. His condition isn't debilitating, but I just felt that it was my duty as a son to take care of him while I was under his roof. It's a role that I have no regrets taking on.

As tight-knit as me and my group of friends are, we don’t like making new additions to the group feel uncomfortable or unwelcome.

My best friend has always been close to her father, so when he died a few years ago, it was quite understandable when she took it hard. She was inconsolable, and for quite some time she was dependent on her family and friends for emotional support.

Several months ago, I started going out with a great guy, and just recently I felt comfortable enough asking him to live with me.

DEAR CHICO AND DEALMAR...A few days ago, after a girls’ night out, I caught sight of Alex with another guy friend entering this luxurious hotel.

I am one of those girls who fell in love with their guy best friend. But I think our story is way different.

Recently, my high school classmates and I reconnected via Facebook and since then, we’ve always looked out for each other through thick and thin. If a friend is in need and we can spare a little something to help him or her out, we do.

’m a 23-year-old whom a lot of my friends describe as “cute.’’ My problem is that when they call me “cute”, it is because they regard me as someone totally innocent with regards to topics concerning relationships and sexual matters.

Some battles you fight for yourself, some battles you fight for others.

I’m a high school senior and modesty aside, I have been told countless times before that I am attractive. A lot of the guys in school have been sending feelers my way, but none of them have really caught my interest.

My girlfriend and I have a fiery relationship. When we’re in a lovey-dovey phase, we really get into it. But when we are in a combative mood, it gets really explosive.

I am afraid what my boyfriend will think once he hears about these rumors. How do I break this news to him? And how do we weather the gossip circling us now?

I’ve been married for three years, but it wasn’t my choice to marry my husband, even if we already have a child.

I’m the new girl in the office and have been having a great time so far acclimatizing to the corporate environment. But while I’ve mostly been enjoying being part of the rat race, there are some things which I’m having a difficult time understanding.

When I was in high school, I tried to kill myself by overdosing on pills.

Is it wrong for me to want my parents to be apart?

I just recently got my dream job at an event organizing company.

"Is this issue bigger than the whole friendship?"

I’m in my late 20’s and I’ve been dating a guy for the past year or so. He’s very serious about me. So serious, in fact, that we have even discussed marriage. This is my first relationship, and I feel like things are getting a little too intense for my own liking.

I started dating this guy several months ago. He seemed to be the perfect gentleman. He would open doors for me and the like, and I found his old school manners very charming. I moved in with him a couple of weeks ago, and since I’ve been with him, I found out something that has begun to bother me a bit..

Should I speak about my misgivings and perhaps jeopardize a future with this company, or should I just shut up and be thankful that I did not become a glorified water girl during my internship? – Joanna

Fred and Leah have always been the Brangelina of our little group of friends. They’ve been together forever, and we always look to them as a model for what a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship should be. However, I just recently found out that this is not the case.

I graduated with an Education degree a few years ago. I am now teaching college English.  I’ve met so many bright minds among my students. One of them has become particularly close to me..

I am a Nursing student who just graduated with honors. When I was applying for college, I was thinking of taking up what my parents considered as a “dead-end course.”

I’m pretty sure you guys have had your own share of letter-senders asking for advice with regards to affairs in the workplace. I guess my situation is a little similar to theirs, with the only difference being I’m not the one having an affair.

By the time you get this, the elections are probably over. But I can’t say the same for the political situation in our home.

I have a boyfriend who you could say was less than ideal. He is very possessive and jealous, and even hacked my e-mail to read my correspondences. How do I get rid of him and get my life back? – Irene

Or should I just accept that Sam is too hot for me? –James

I turned to the church for support, and our local priest was especially supportive of me. From there, things quickly progressed and we became more than just friends, if you know what I mean.

How do I save my job without destroying my friendship in the process?

I’ve always dreamed of starting a life of my own, which I thought I can do when I graduate and get a job. Finally, I’ll be graduating from college this April and I’m really excited.
 

Should you  be monogamous or not? What would you do if your partner in an open relationship for so long decides to take the relationship to the next level?

When you fall, cry a few tears, then pick yourself up, pick up the lesson, then keep walking…

He Says, She Says

DEAR CHICO AND DELAMAR... When I first started seeing my girlfriend, I didn’t get along very well with her sister “Debra” and this was the main stumling block because they are pretty close.

How do I talk about my mother without making things awkward, or worse, a pity party for me? I just want to keep her memory alive.

I’m 29 years old and until now I’m still sharing a room with my two younger siblings in our house.

Homesickness is always there, the pain and longing to be with my family is always in my head day and night.

My problem is that Desmond has apparently noticed his girlfriend’s “fondness” for me and has made efforts to distance himself and Lea from me and my boyfriend.

My dad and I haven’t had the best relationship. But I guess unlike most letter senders who write you with daddy problems, it’s not my father who is at fault here. I’m the one who has been a pretty bad son during the time we spent living together.

I’ve been working as a purchaser for a huge retail chain for the past couple of years, and it’s a job that I never thought I would like. I took an unrelated course when I was in college, and did not expect to stay in this job for this long.

Our household help left a few months ago. Since me and my sister are both working and we don’t have time to do the chores in the house, my mom decided to hire her older sister to do the job and to also help her family financially.

‘We can support, we can stand by, we can prop up, we can rally behind, we can be there for people fighting their battles, but in the final round, they fight alone…’

My problem is whether doing something like this, so close after our break up, is even appropriate at all.

One time, at the gym that I frequent, I had said hi to the person I was doing the treadmills with since we were the only people in the gym at the time. I had no problem when he started engaging me in conversation, but things took a sleazy turn a few minutes.

Chico and Delamar take a break from the usual answering of letters to write their thoughts about the recent events brought about by the Great Flood.

I have a boyfriend of three years now and he’s really nice, caring, and loving. But recently we argued about his elder sister.

I was hurt by the fact that the guy denied me. We managed to talk and cleared things up and now we’re back in each other’s arms.

My problem is that people who’ve known me as being single for such a long time think I’m not straight!

Several months ago, my little sister approached me in tears and told me that her boyfriend, having convinced himself that she was cheating on him, hacked her e-mail address and looked through her text messages to find “evidence”. Even when he found none, he waited for my sister after work and confronted her. Things got so heated that security guards had to get involved.

I had a terrible bout with depression when I was in high school. As a result, I have quite a few scars from the cutting and burning on my arms that I did to myself back when I was dealing with my feelings.

I said I would never date a smoker. But then, I fell in love with one.

A close friend of mine is getting married next year, and she has turned into a Bridezilla!

While playing around with it a couple of days ago -- my project was going well and I had some time to goof off -- I tinkered around with the laptop and looked in the recycle bin.

Whenever my father and I meet new people or he introduces me to his friends, I’ve always become the focus of less than encouraging comments about my appearance.

I’ve attended my own share of baby showers and weddings over several months, and for the most part I have enjoyed being part of this momentous moment in their lives.

Dear Chico and Delamar...About two months ago, I cheated on my boyfriend with a classmate. Understandably, when my boyfriend found out he asked me to stop seeing my classmate ever again. My boyfriend and I worked things out, and our relationship went back on track.

Dear Chico and Delamar...I’m 19, and my mother just recently got herself a Facebook account. She’s been reconnecting with her high school friends, one of whom we’ll call Jake. I don’t know what they had going on back in high school, but they certainly seem to have got something going on now. I’ve found out that they often chat on YM even up to three in the morning.

DEAR CHICO AND DELAMAR...The way my boyfriend and I started our relationship is very unusual. We didn’t go through the process of getting to know each other before jumping into a serious relationship.

DEAR CHICO AND DELAMAR...In high school, I developed a crush on this guy. He wasn’t really in my circle of friends, and he used to bug me a lot, but it changed when we reached our junior year. Later that year, I heard that he already had a girlfriend. After graduation, we separated ways and never talked again.

DEAR CHICO AND DELAMAR...I recently changed jobs, and one of the biggest fears that I had before transferring was the difficulty of having to get along with the employees at my new job.

DEAR CHICO AND DELAMAR...Back in high school, I stole my friend’s boyfriend from her.

DEAR CHICO AND DELAMAR...I am a recent university graduate, and because of a financial emergency in the family I have had to take a job in a fastfood company while looking for a job that is better suited towards my degree.

DEAR CHICO AND DELAMAR...Hi! I just need to ask, is there hope for long distance affair? I met this guy through a friend. He is working in the Middle East as an engineer.

DEAR CHICO AND DELAMAR...I’ve been with my partner for more than a year now and it seems like we’re doing pretty cool. Aside from being a gay couple, there is a 13-year age difference between us: He’s 23, still exploring the gay life, while I’m 39, and I’ve been there and done that. When we started living together, we vowed that we will be exclusive to each other.

Dear Chico and Delamar...