She’s a CHAT ADDICT!

I am 42-years old and a father of two young intelligent boys. My wife is a plain housewife, who is sometimes into buy and sell business. My problem, Miss Peppin, is that she does not have time for me ever since she learned chatting on the internet. I do understand that she might be bored from staying in the house all the time, but I am expecting her to attend to my needs when I arrive home. I could not stop her because we end up arguing. The problem is quite serious now because she would make it a point to do everything like cooking much ahead of time so I won’t disturb her. I do not want more conflicts, Miss Peppin, but I could not stand this anymore! What will I do? – NESTOR of TAAL, BATANGAS

Nestor, her chatting habits could have been developed during your absence and by the time you arrive from work, she finds difficulty in putting a stop in the good chat since interruptions of any kind destroys her momentum as well as the flow of the conversation. What interests her most
is the idea of creating a bunch of acquaintances in the Internet. Well…you seem to be jealous of two things: first, her being glued to the monitor and second, the presence of her countless friends in this techie world. As his wife, you expect her to spend the special hour supposed to be for you after a day’s work. If you don’t mind my asking, do you still spend some private moments with her after office hours? Do you give the much-needed special attention solely for her? Do you spend quality time with her even if you are dead tired from work?

You see, this is just one of the effects of idleness and it is only you who can convince her to minimize the habit. I suggest that you introduce some innovations to her in order to break the monotony of her routine activities in the home and likewise your bond to last. Dating after office hours could be fine but think of something more special of her interest until such time that she will be totally detached from her addiction in chatting. Another suggestion is to simply ignore her and might as well do her task so she would realize that she is going overboard with the hope that she will finally give up the habit. Think about it.

SHOULD I TELL HIM?

I got your email address when I saw you on TV and I hope you could help me on my problem. I am 27 years old and a medical representative. My boyfriend and I have been going steady for 2 years now but marriage is still out of the way. Miss Peppin, should I tell him that I was gang raped? This has been bothering me. I am afraid he might leave me. HELP! – GUMMYBEAR, CEBU CITY

Gummybear, the main key for a relationship to last is HONESTY and TRUST for one another. In fact, the best time to lay down your cards and be transparent on this sensitive issue is before having to accept his proposal so you would see any change in his decision. This move is not to solicit sympathy or anything to that effect but simply to test the sincerity of his intention inspite of. It is better late than never.

PEPPIN’S POST

·         Belated birthday greetings to FR. PIERRE TRITZ, S.J.(Sept. 19) of ERDA Foundation, INC., and to PROF. SUSIE MACAPAGAL of the Faculty of Arts & Letters UST.

·         FACULTY OF ARTS & LETTERS GRAND ALUMNI HOMECOMING: Calling all PHILETS & ARTLETS! There will be a GRAND ALUMNI HOMECOMING on NOV 30, 2004 at the Manila Hotel. For more info, call 731.4003 and look for Prof. Lino Baron and Prof. Nancy Tabirara.

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