Interested parties know exactly where to go and what do upon arrival. Early reports of difficulty with cyber-affairs come from people who have shared very personal details of their lives, including sexual preferences and problems, as well as those of their partners. An online "love" survey, reports that many people engage in such activities out of curiosity, for the experience of orgasm, or to relieve loneliness. The only thing is after some time there are those who "get hooked" not only to the feeling but to the "actual sexual encounters" or experience and the satisfaction it gives them however temporary. They enjoy it so much that it becomes a regular craving--- leading to an addiction.

One thing is certain: suspicion of infidelity can seriously damage trust in relationship. Therefore, for our purposes, we’ll use the word "infidelity" to describe the repeatedly taking of sexual energy outside of a committed, monogamous relationship through action intentionally leading to sexual arousal with an identified person, place, or thing. Secretive and deceptive behavior, denying suspicions when expressed by those who notice something amiss, and withdrawing emotional and sexual energy from their partner is common to both online and offline infidelity.

So again, I urge those who chat and engage in sexual banter. Please you’re your limitations. We set our own parameters. We are responsible for how and why we chat.

Whatever one chooses to call it, specific types of people engaging in cyber-affairs seem to be emerging. And this is happening now, more than ever before. Several other surveys and discussion forums elicited numerous comments and submissions regarding the various types of cyber-affairs that appear to be common on the Net. While scientific research into this area is clearly needed to delineate a definitive typology. Let us discuss the following observations in a more detailed manner.

Covert Cyber-affairs. Centuries of tradition have imbued routine affairs with expected levels of secrecy, motive, and result - with technology or without it. Technology has improved certain aspects, making it more convenient, more varied, and physically safer. But the seduction of satisfying one’s sexual appetite with a few online nibbles before going for the real thing is simply a manifestation of people doing what they want to do, only doing it more easily with the tools of technology.

Overt Cyber-affairs. This type of affair can involve partners who either approve or disapprove of the affair. This is practiced by a lot of married men of the Net. For couples that agree that one or both can participate in cyber-affairs, there are still many variations that can take place between a couple. The wife or hubby may or may not know, oftentimes, their partners allow the other to chat but "just don’t care to know" what the other is doing online. Of course, there is always the subgroup of people that has come to accept a mate’s affair because he or she sees no alternative after learning of the partner’s cyber-affair….

· With Partner Approval: For those who are in a committed and monogamous marriage offline, having an affair online can provide extra romance and enriched sexual experiences, reportedly without endangering a marriage.

· Without Partner Approval: When the affair continues without partner approval, it can wreak havoc in a relationship, and has already led to many divorces

· Manage a Trois. For those who share their messages with their spouses, when the activities are performed with the partner’s approval or participation, there can even be added stimulation in their offline lovemaking. For these people, the exchanges are reportedly considered a "turn on" for the spouse of the person having the affair. For them, it is added fuel for sexual contact with their offline and, sometimes, online partners. The long-term effects of this upon the stability of committed offline relationships have not yet been examined, however.

Covert Group Cyber-affairs - The Lurker. This group is on the fringe of the infidelity camp, perhaps developing a predilection for one particular virtual community, or one type of virtual community (such as those that engage in Sado-masochism better known as S & M, or those "feet fetish" sites or simply one particular dating site). This member’s object of desire, then, might be to participate in the community itself, or follow the behavior of specific members of the community.

Some of these members might be "lurkers," who participate passively. In what might be considered "cyber-voyeurism," they might watch the exchanges of other people, and never make their presence known. Voyeurism is easily enabled by technology and culminates in anonymous servers posting to anonymous websites where anything goes.

What are the repercussions Cyber Affairs?

Damage to the Self. Deception.

Proximity as Heightened Betrayal.

Research Supporting Gender Differences in Internet Behavior.

A tendency for women toward seeking relationship is suggested by the MSNBC study, completed during March and April of 1998 at the MSNBC website (Cooper, Scherer, Boise & Gordon, 1999). Women favored sexual chat rooms more than twice a much as men (49% vs. 23%), while men preferred Web sites featuring visual erotica more than twice a much as women (50% vs. 23%).