Janice de Belen on ex John Estrada: ‘We will never be friends’
Actress Janice de Belen opened up about her ex-husband John Estrada, her latest heartache, her recently married son Luigi, becoming a grandmother and Aga Muhlach during her birthday celebration aired on Nov. 9.
“Eto ang totoo. We [referring to John] will never be friends,” she told guest interviewer Paolo Bediones as her “Sis” co-hosts Gelli de Belen and Carmina Villaroel watched from the sidelines.
“Hindi na sa akin ang issue. His issue with his kids ang dapat n'yang ayusin,” she pointed out.
Janice and John have four children, namely Inah (17), Moira (16), Kyla (13), and Yuan (11). They tied the knot in 1992, separated in 2001, and their marriage was annulled in 2004.
Janice addressed an issue that began a few weeks ago on an online social network. “Hindi ako magsusulat ng kung ano sa Facebook na hindi ko kayang panindigan,” she maintained.
She said this is what she wrote: “Mahirap bang intindihin na ang ibig sabihin ng child support ay monthly na ibinibigay at hindi parang abuloy. Nangaliwa ka na nga, ibinigay na nga ang freedom mo, ‘yung dapat lang para sa anak ko hindi mo pa kayang ibigay?”
She added that she didn’t say anything anymore after posting that message as her Facebook status.
“I’m not trying to pick up a fight. I’m not trying to make an issue for myself. Those were my thoughts that I want to be heard."
“Wala naman para sa akin, eh. I’m also working so whatever he gives I have no part of. Why do you think I’m working hard? Hindi naman para sa akin lang, ‘di ba?"
“Ang mga issues n’ya sa buhay n’ya ngayon, wala akong pakialam do’n. Eto lang. Hindi dahil nabu-b’wisit ako sa ‘yo. Hindi sa kanya pero do’n sa ginagawa n’ya sa mga anak n’ya,” she explained.
The former child star born Nov. 9, 1968, was earlier asked by Paolo, a good friend and former co-host on the defunct “S-Files,” if she’s happy.
“Generally, I’m happy,” she replied and shared her philosophical view on happiness, which apparently involved a certain fondness for Chinese cabinets. “Ito 'yong maraming drawers. So feeling ko, tayo, 'yong mga tao, 'yong mga drawers symbolize every aspect of their life.”
“I’ve been blessed. Sobrang dami ng blessings. Siguro sa family…may ilan pang aspeto na hindi,” she admitted.
The interview touched on a recent breakup with a non-showbiz boyfriend.
“I’ve been dodging this question for the longest time because it’s something that I truly hold secret. It’s unfair [because it’s about somebody] most people don’t know so ‘wag na lang. It’s really hard to answer this question now kasi it’s something that you have to get over,” she said, her voice cracking.
“I hate you,” she told Paolo to which her interviewer replied, “I love you.”
“Ikaw lang ang hinayaan kong magtanong sa akin n’yan, promise,” she continued. “Kasi para sa akin, [‘pag] private, private. They want to ask it, but nobody would even bother asking. That part of my life is now a closed book. [Maybe] it was meant to be that way. I bear no grudges. I’m not mad at anybody. It’s just…
“Siguro hindi lang ako pinagpala ‘pag dating d’yan. Wala pa akong nakikilala na deserving enough of the kind of love that I give,” she sighed.
Janice’s face lit up a bit when asked about her children. “Ready na ako na one day they will have lives of their own. They will leave me as well. I have no right to question that. I have no right to get angry because I…‘Wag lang sabay-sabay,” she grinned.
Her 22-year-old firstborn, Luigi, married his non-showbiz girlfriend on Oct. 24 and would soon give her and Aga Muhlach, their first grandchild.
“Ako naman hindi ko naman problema kung lola na ako. Hindi eh [it doesn’t make me older]. Kasi ngayon ang na-realize ko ang worry ng parents ko for me noon. I was 18 when I had Luigi. My parents’ worry was not because dapat hindi pa. Ang worry lang naman nila that time was can I handle it? Am I mature enough and responsible enough to be a parent? I had the same worries,” she intoned.
Janice admitted not being excited at first. “Kasi ang worry ko muna, 'yong mga fears ko. Kailangan i-settle ko muna ang mga fears na ‘yan but lately ‘pag nagmo-mall kami, napapadaan kami sa baby store, ‘yong mga anak kong iba, excited. They’re talking about the baby.
“Parang I find myself getting excited as well. Kaya nga ang sabi ko, OK, fine, I’m excited and I’m probably going to be the worst grandmother because I’m going to spoil their kid,” she laughed.
She turned emotional, though, when Paolo asked if Luigi is ready to be a father.
“I’m hoping and praying very hard na he is. I think he is,” she said, fighting back the tears.
Janice had no problem at all with Aga bringing his wife Charlene Gonzales to Luigi’s wedding.
“Kasi siguro mature na kami pareho. Being there – and Charlene was there – you put all the angst, drama, whatever behind. Because it’s over. First and foremost, we were there as parents not as Janice and Aga,” she stressed.



