Amidst this complex and fast-paced life, we crave for trouble-free and stable relationships. The need to love and be loved and the need to belong and be appreciated are as basic as food, clothing, and shelter. It is undeniable that relationships can provide nurturance, warmth, and security. However, we have to be certain that the relationships we enter are healthy ones. What does it take, then, for people to enjoy a pleasant and meaningful commitment with each other?

For starters, a healthy relationship should allow for the emotional and intellectual growth of each individual. A relationship should also be appreciative of each individual’s strengths and triumphs. Likewise, we should provide support during our loved ones’ failures.

We should always bring our loved ones’ best assets to light. This way, we show not only how much we value them, but also boost their own self-esteem, further encouraging them to pursue their goals in life.

A healthy relationship acknowledges that each individual is every bit a human being, and is thus capable of mistakes. We should let our loved ones understand that failures are not the be-all and end-all of who they are but are, rather, opportunities to learn and grow from.

A healthy relationship should also render give-and-take experiences. It should not be one-sided, as relationships are also partnerships, wherein the individuals help each other to grow through life together. Relationships are made of individuals who treat each other on equal footing; we should want to do things for our loved ones, and we should also expect our loved ones to do the same.

Finally, healthy relationships should create nurturing and pleasurable home and work environments.
 
(Dr. Batar is the Department of Psychiatry Training Officer at The Medical City.)